capresesandwich:

pegsephone:

cinnamonbunboii:

navyasarchive:

pegsephone:

pegsephone:

you can joke all you want about how “stupid” biphobia is or how ridiculous and inconsequential biphobic stereotypes are but that doesn’t change the fact that bi people, and specifically bi women, will continue to suffer real world trauma because of the shit you say and do.

i hung out with this guy i always joked was “the perfect gentleman” over summer. i was at his house for maybe 30 mins before he rolled on top of me and shoved his hand down my pants.

after i finished yelling at him and asked what possibly could’ve made him think i wanted that, he showed me this lovely group chat he was in (with 4 other guys who i had been friends with).

“don’t bother to ask,” they said.

“she’s definitely into that kind of shit”

“she’s always tweeting about freaky shit. she’ll be down.” (i tweet about being bi. that’s it.)

“ask her how many dudes she’s fucked before.”

“ask about the girls she’s been with.”

“she’s been a slut since like 5th grade” (when i first came out)

“what’s her body count? what’s her ratio?”

“ask if we can join”

“she’s bi, right? fuck she’ll probably let you video tape it”

im bi. so of course im down to fuck.

im bi, so why should they have to ask?

I’m still thinking about this post so OP I hope you don’t mind me adding some commentary. 

You people need to read this, internalize it, and understand that biphobia is a real form of patriachal oppression. When bi women face biphobia, it is clear that this is the form of misogyny and homophobia they’re dealing with. The reason bisexual women report high rates of IPV and sexual assault is because of biphobia. It’s not because of generic misogyny and it’s not because of misdirected homophobia. 

Please understand that if you as an LGBT person or as a feminist are saying the same things that straight men say about bi women, you’re directly contributing to why bi women are oppressed. You’re enabling straight men to get away with what they do to bi women. 

Okay, so, um… maybe it’s just me but I don’t really see the correlation of what this has to do with being bi? This seems more like just men attacking women. Like, maybe I’m looking at it from a different light or I’m just clueless but I would think that regardless of the person being bi it’d still happen? Could… someone explain this to me?

Like im really not trying to be rude, I just don’t understand? I feel like the guy still would’ve done this regardless of the person’s sexuality?

So yeah. You completely missed the point of this post and the importance of navyas addition.

look up the ipv and assault rates for bi women. they’re higher than lesbians and straight women. bi women are assaulted, abused, etc for their sexuality. not just because they’re women.

the texts i listed were literally almost verbatim from their group chat. he didn’t ask before he grabbed me because why wouldn’t the bi woman want to fuck? there was this excellent post about men viewing bisexuality as a behavior and not an identity and that’s literally what happened.

“she tweets about freaky shit.” i tweet about being bi but they consider bisexuality to be about threesomes and casual sex and no sexual boundaries so why would they ask my consent first? it’s not just a matter of “men feel entitled to women’s bodies” it was specifically about my bisexuality.

read the post again. read navyas addition. fuck, read her whole ass blog. look up statistics for bi women and violence against them. the denial that this happens because of our sexuality only contributes to it.

Presumptions of bi women’s promiscuity, hyper/extra-sexuality, sexual availability contribute drastically to the rates of sexual assault we experience bc men view us as unable (or uninterested) in saying no.

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thereallieutenantcommanderdata:

ukulelekatie:

Something that I really like about The Good Place is that at times it feels like fanfiction. It has that element of taking the same characters and placing them in a reality in which something is different to see what changes about their thoughts and actions and what stays the same. All the different combinations and types of relationships that arise with each reboot (Jason and Janet vs. Jason and Tahani, romantic Eleanor and Chidi vs. platonic Eleanor and Chidi, even mention of a reboot where Eleanor and Tahani were soulmates) totally remind me of fans rewriting the canon to get their ships together. Heck, the most recent season is basically “AU where the characters never died.” You get to see that comparison of “what ifs” whereas in most shows there’s only one canon that they stick to, and I find that so appealing and fun.

The Good Place is 802 AUs in a trenchcoat

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juansendizon:

“A healthy friendship will never force you to compromise your own values, your own passions, and your own little joys. It will always be there for you to inspire you in acting on the things that make you special, unique and most of all worthy of love.”

— Juansen Dizon, A Healthy Friendship

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bakwaaas:

damn this tea scalded me

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naramdil:

I used to think it was important to have common interests with the person that you are in a relationship with but now I think it is more important to be similar in other aspects. like how kind you are. how you treat the people you care about, how you treat strangers. how you deal with anger. how you deal with pain. and not necessarily dealing with all these things the same way but being perseptive enough to understand what action each situation calls for. it’s important for both people to be on the same page about what that action should be. it’s important to me to have that kind of synchrony.

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jamaicanblackcastoroil:

heyisfurwhoresez:

stephanemiroux:

thechanelmuse:

Gina Rodriguez is jealous, obsessed, and uncomfortable with the successes of Black women, and demonstrates a fake happy demeanor anytime Black women or their accomplishments are praised, whilst using our visibility or accomplishments as a platform to create opportunities for certain Latinas like when she proposed a Latin version of Girl’s Trip and a Latin superhero film after much talk about the record-breaking Black Panther or she diverts a conversation to be inclusive for “ALL women.” Like that time she tried to correct the interviewer below. 

Go to the 2:00 mark.

The exchange probably appears to be an innocent complementary gesture by Gina towards Yara for people who are unaware of the usual overstepping sentiment of hers. Yara is indeed a great role model for young women. But correcting an interviewer so you can feel comfortable and included in a statement that solely praises the representation of a young Black woman for her fellow young Black women is fucking rude and uncalled for.

There are people of color who only care about phrases like “inclusivity” and “representation” solely when it benefits their race and/or ethnicity and they want the efforts of others—particularly Black people—to do the work for them. 

Now with Gina’s recent remarks, she stated the following: 

Her full statement: “I get so petrified in this space talking about equal pay, especially when you look at the intersectional aspect of it, right? Where white women get paid more than Black women, Black women get paid more than Asian women, Asian women get paid more than Latina women, and it’s like a very scary space to step into because I always feel like I fail when I speak about it because I can’t help but feel already so gracious to do what I do and I feel like, culturally, I feel like I was raised to just feel so appreciative of getting here.“

I’m not about to play no oppression Olympics over which race/ethnicity of actresses gets paid the least, but I’ma just leave this right here:

Back to the tweet by HP Latino Voices and Gina’s statement. Notice anything? 

Pairing the long fought for achievements of Black people (Black women, in this case) with a “What about us Latinxs?” attitude is not only anti-Black AF, but continues to push for and perpetrate the erasure of Latinxs who are predominantly of African descent that is carried out and historically embedded in the DNA of Latin America. 

BLACK LATINAS EXIST. BLACK LATINOS EXIST. 

Not Black or Latinx. Black AND Latinx. Latinx is not a race, whereas Black is.

We’ve talked about this. 

But when you’re Gina and do deliberate things like hosting a “Latina Power Lunch” and only invite certain shades and types of Latinas, 

or longing for a colonialist superhero movie if she would pen one,

“I think it would be about Christopher Columbus coming over, the migration of the Spaniards, and the influence of the mixes [of people] in South America and in the Caribbean. That’s were my superhero movies would lay, like the 1400 or 1500s.” (Source)

how can one not suspect an agenda?…

On the same day the cast of Black Panther attended San Diego Comic Con and articles were being written left and right due to the film’s high anticipation, here goes Gina…

Carlos Valdes. Dania Ramirez. Gabriel Luna. Jessica Camacho…. 

Nevermind that some of that actresses listed are Black Latinas, which includes her homegirl Rosario…. 

Gina has even acknowledged shes afro latina (you can fully expect her to bring it up again to block criticisms) yet is so tone deaf. Fucking yikes.

I’m obsessed with celebrity interviews, and she does this…A LOT. She has a serious problem with Black women’s success.

Honestly I don’t even believe she’s Afro Latina because I’ve only seen her bring it up when the backlash to her antiblack comments happen.

thoughtslostandfound:

All food service workers should 100% be entitled to free ass meals on the job. Not discounted, not half off. Free.

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counsellorsuggestion:

our society places such stigma upon ‘attention seeking’, as though wanting to have your existence acknowledged is a bad thing. really, we all need attention - some of us need lots, and others are content with less. so long as you’re not seeking it in a hurtful or self-harming way, it’s completely fine to ask for. the phrases “i need someone to talk to” and “do you want to hang out?” are your friends.

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